Resolutions. Love them or hate them? I personally hate them, but here’s a good one for me. Maybe it’ll help you.
I have a yes/no problem.
Specifically, I’m not saying one of them enough, or to the right thing, or at the right time.
How do I know which?
There’s science behind why we need to say yes to more things. The science of saying yes is about finding the right opportunities through experimentation.
Yes is about possibilities and breadth.
Saying no is an art because the issue’s core is usually entangled in a web of emotions. Sometimes we say no out of fear. Fear of the unknown, rejection, failure. Fear that you won’t or can’t finish.
Other times we can’t say no because of fear. Fear of letting someone down, disappointing ourselves, or having to admit a weakness. We all want to be someone who can be counted upon.
The art is in separating your emotions of the moment from the journey you are on.
No is about focus and depth.
Yup, this is all me. But I have a solution that I’ve tried before and will commit to for the new year. In these situations, I will ask myself,
“Which is harder for me (in this situation)?”
My comfort zone is a stone-cold sage regarding what I should be doing. The answer that threatens to pull me out of my comfort zone is likely to be the better choice.
Let’s jump out of our comfort zones.
