When you’re the newcomer, you have four options:
- Fit in and embrace
- Fit in and work with the group to change it to something you want it to be
- Don’t fit in and work against the group to change it to something you want it to be
- Leave
Any of those are OK. However, if you choose to not fit in and try to bend the group to what you want, don’t be surprised at the resistance.
Because just as you have the right to try to make it the way you want it, so does everyone else. Especially the ones who set up the rules. Rights go both ways.
